The concept of ‘perfect’ and ‘ideal’ is ever so enchanting for many us to chase after. A perfect home, an ideal job, a textbook definition life, a seamless situation and what not?!
When it comes to partners, we often start building castles in the air about the perfect one! We create invisible checklists often inspired by what we see around in real life and reel life and all those romantic scribbles, tear jerking of course, by Nicholas Sparks and many others like him.
When we talk about our soulmates, we assume with an abandon that it would be a perfect match. 100% perfect. This person would always be the best fit to every essence of our life and we would be theirs. Now, this all seems great in proposition. But this is not always the case. Although soulmates waltz into our lives with such a swing that matches our rhythm in every step, taking our breath away, they are not always the knight in a shining armor or the darling dainty damsel we always think they are. They can be that but they are also the villains who wreak havoc in our otherwise normal lives.
Now this must have caught your attention!
Our minds are accustomed to the ideal concepts of our twin souls, the perfect partner and all the rose-tainted-glass of love shows us. We are conditioned to believe in a magical world where we find that someone who accepts us for who we are, as-is and unconditionally. We believe in this and we wait. What we always believe in is for some miracle and magical “perfect” partner who will always be accepting and accommodating to our every wish/our core/our style. Isn’t this the best? But is there someone like that? Do our soul partners always compliment us in every way? Do they always walk with us, every step of the way without conflicting with our own perspectives of life and the way we live? No!
Soulmates actually can break us, shatter our cores, and can be totally disruptive. They are our inner warriors of light who can destroy us, fracture our hearts in order to seek out our inner desires, dreams and all the demons that hold us back. They not only give us the happiness of our lives but sometimes teach us to shake ourselves up, rattle our beliefs and free ourselves from our hidden fears and inhibitions. They will divulge your inner true self one piece at a time. They are enchanting but at the same time they are critical. They may embark on a journey of realization and drag us along. Inspiring us and transforming us into the best version of ourselves.
They are our inner warriors of light who can destroy us, fracture our hearts in order to seek out our inner desires, dreams and all the demons that hold us back. They not only give us the happiness of our lives but sometimes teach us to shake ourselves up, rattle our beliefs and free ourselves from our hidden fears and inhibitions.
When we find the ‘one’ who truly resonate with our innermost selves, then they are given a cosmic license to tear apart our egos and help us unwrap our heads from the idea that we form about our own selves, our identity, our persona, our needs, our pet peeves, our everything. Then, they will inspire to rebuild our jigsaw puzzle one piece at a time. They can hold out hand to us when we are afraid of breaking the age old shackles we bind ourselves in, they will be ready to make you tread on eggshells making you let go of your deepest fears and teach you to fly. They simply will let you discover your own inner strength and peace as you trudge along the paths of life with them. Their part is not of the always-nodding, ever-so-obliging and lovey-dovey partners. Their actual part is to be a mirror showing you what you look like and a crystal ball showing what the best side of you looks like.
They simply will let you discover your own inner strength and peace as you trudge along the paths of life with them.
How easy it is when we end up with the ‘one’ we always wanted (for the lucky few of us) and come face-to-face with someone who can wrench our cores and unveil that part of us that we never thought we are or we could be? What happens when they shatter every idea we have in our minds of our own selves and they challenge and wring them in every contorted manner possible so that we can reveal our truest beautiful selves? We realize love in its purest form. We embrace life and we rejoice life. We experience light. We grow and evolve into beings who can feel their home in the universe and be in tune with the entire creation. This is how true strength and grit to deal with life is built. Once we are sculpted this way, we face life with a renewed energy and a force that no one can shake – not even time!
We usually are like the proverbial blind man in darkness. We need our inner light and we need to believe that we can forge ahead fighting darkness that try to enter through various crevices in life. Let us open out and hold out for our truest soulmates. Who can walk in with a breeze, sweep us off our feet, give us the best of the best, love us truly and beat us to death shaping us into the best person we could ever be. Let them come in and wipe the smoky mirrors in which we see ourselves and let them make us grounded. In that destruction of our egos, we will fear less and we will find our humble abode in life and a new power to conquer the world. We would have then arrived to ourselves.
Let them come in and wipe the smoky mirrors in which we see ourselves and let them make us grounded.
Shameless Plug : No Knights in shining Armour, No dainty damsels – we believe in keeping it real at SoulCafe