There are no cookie cutter solutions like some articles proclaim – “5 ways to deal with heart breaks”. And that’s because each relationship is unique and so are the individuals. While we see a Devdas effect at one end, we also see people who get into a rebound relationship rather quickly. There are couples who could still be friends after a break up, and others who can’t. Though there are many aspects of a relationship that could make us react in a certain way, having an understanding about our “attachment styles” would give us better clarity on why we respond the way we respond.
Well, this is not typically a topic most people are comfortable talking about. Betrayal and abandonment. Well, the truth is there are more stories of heartbreak in this world and more lost wanderers than there are happy couples.
Our brains work in weird mysterious ways. Always coming up with cocktails of mysterious thoughts, perceived realities and unreal illusions. If this were, for one tiny moment, considered a witch’s potion cooked out of a large cauldron then the smokes rising up for this concoction is nothing but the pangs, oohs-aahs and the emotional roller…
Honestly, there is not always a black or white, discrete rights or wrongs in these stories of infidelity – they come in various shades of grey. What we need to understand is, while being in a relationship – infidelity is always a matter of choice and never an accident.
So is Fidelity – it is a CHOICE – one makes to love “the one” day after day, year after year.
Vulnerability in this world is avoided like plague. We so detest revealing ourselves to the world and more so to our partners. The idea of holding back hinges on a primal fear of getting hurt in the process of baring oneself. Fear of judgment and perception makes us create cocoons of our inner secrets, original…
It was a hectic couple of weeks put up in a hotel room, during an official trip. One morning after breakfast at the hotel restaurant, I picked up this perfect shiny apple from the fruit platter and left it on a table in my room for later. Each day passed, with the shiny apple still…
” By engaging in meaningful conversations, we manage to impose meaning on an otherwise pretty chaotic world. And interpersonally, as you find this meaning, you bond with your interactive partner.” – Dr Matthias Mehl
Musical preference definitely is a good LITMUS TEST that gives us a hint about a person’s values, empathy and emotional openness.
The damsel in distress story plots end once the damsel is rescued and we move on with the belief that they lived happily ever after. We never get to see what “lived happily ever after” looks like. The truth of the matter is that the “happily ever after” doesn’t necessarily happen for the damsel and the knight.
It is time that we consider gender on a spectrum, not as two opposing sets of ideals. When we move out of these sets, and just be what we are – our unique blend, we are at our best.