Being REAL – The “Velveteen Rabbit” Way.

The slogans of  “Being Real”, “Being You” buzz around us more often these days. With a few quotes tweeted, some posts shared and by becoming part of the  forums of our choice – we think we are portraying our REAL selves. Honestly, being REAL (yes, the REAL in caps) ain’t that  easy in a world filled with “mirages of…

The changing timetable for adulthood.

Why aren’t the millennials (defined as the group those who are born in 1982 and approximately the 20 years thereafter) settling down? The word “settling down” unsettles this lot. This topic gets quite uncomfortable around the dinner table with parents and quite weird with relatives at a  family function. Most of the time the settling down…

Understanding the Quiet Ones

We all know someone in our respective circles who would prefer a quiet weekend reading books, someone who often makes an excuse when asked to join an office party, someone who seems to have ideas but isn’t necessarily the one who speaks the loudest in a brain storming session. We often call them the “serious types”,…

The Soul Travellers : Ellie & Ravi

There are a lot of us who love to travel but very few who dare to put it at the center of their very being.  Here is a couple who travel not just to explore but with the intention to give back to the places they travel. Their inner calling to travel for self discovery…

Conscious Living and Loving : Mansoor and Tina Khan

The story of  Mansoor and Tina Khan is essentially the story of a couple who deeply value their life journey rather than worrying or hurrying towards a prescribed destination. A life journey of soul searching, following their passion, practicing gratitude and savoring it all along.

Indian Marriages – A cross cultural perspective with Elizabeth Flock.

How many of us would take the plunge into the depths of a cultural fabric of a foreign land to understand the nuances and complexities of that novice culture? Meet Elizabeth Flock who is a journalist, author and documentary filmmaker with a keen focus on women’s and social issues. Her work has been featured in PBS…

Grief and Love : Two sides of the same coin

What if we guard ourselves against grief, pain and failure? We can numb ourselves with busy schedules, shopping, non stop scrolling on our phones and so on.  Life will still go on and when asked “How are you?” we could still auto respond “good” or “fine”.

Ich and Du – in the times of technology

I am part of a generation that was raised with bare minimum technology and the one who is raising the next generation that calls out “Alexa” for anything and everything. I understand – the transition seems a bit too much to take in, but more than anything else I quite too often wonder about “What…

Empath and Narcissist – A match made in hell.

How does one fall in love with someone who can’t see anything beyond themselves. Why does someone make these self-destructive choices? And the most ironical part is that – most of the time the one in love with a narcissist tends to be an Empath.

An Eternal Instagram Love Story

We frown upon the fact that technology is a big spoiler. The concept of love seems to have shifted from an eternal to an ephemeral one. A concept now that presents itself in it’s most fleeting forms of texts, heart emoticons, likes, selfies and a public status of ….feeling loved. We fantasize about the glorious…

Valentines Weekend Event Bangalore

Red roses and candle light dinners are so so cliche. Seriously!!!  This Valentines weekend celebrate being “Just You” and connect with others over Art, Deep Talk and a great Cuppa Coffee. Zentangle & Deep Talk Event Details Spend time learning the Art and Philosophy of Zentangling with Neha who is one of the nine CZTs (Certified Zentangling Teacher) in India….

7 Important Life Lessons From Zentangling

“Art feeds life and life feeds art.” I am not a great fan of anything that starts with “Zen”. Honestly, the skeptic in me sniffs the spiritual consumerism alert. So was my initial reaction to “Zentangle”. Is it something similar to adult coloring book I thought?   Until I met Neha, who is a passionate zentangler…

Soul Cafe Event – Let’s Deep Talk

A soulful event that was held at Dialogues Cafe Bangalore on 25th Nov, 2017 Meant for thoughtful urban singles this included the following : 1) THE ALCHEMY OF RELATIONSHIPS : A movie based workshop by Life Coach Ram Rohit Sasvehalli : 2) LET’S DEEP TALK : A psychology based game that lets people converse at…

The “Andamen” Couple: Partners in Love and Work

Running a business with your life partner and pursuing a shared dream might sound like an idyllic dream. It definitely gives you the chance to build something from scratch, to live a more meaningful and fulfilling life. But starting up a new venture does come with it’s own perils. Navigating through the rough terrains of…

Loving the “Work- In-Progress”.

As individuals we are always a “work in progress”, there is no perfect state – we are always in the process of  BECOMING. Love is the unconditional acceptance of being part of each other’s “BECOMING”.

A valuable piece of advice on Life Choices from Shikha Sharma, CEO Axis Bank.

Not everyday do we hear people talking about finding the right life partner at a convocation speech.  Axis Bank CEO Shikha Sharma’s recent convocation speech at the Indian Institute of Management, Ahmedabad (IIM-A),   touched upon the three tough choices one has to make in life. According to her, finding the right partner is one of…

The Beautiful World beyond Small Talk.

“There are no strangers here; Only friends you haven’t yet met.” – William Butler Yeats What’s so fascinating about the HONY (Human’s of New York) concept?  The concept is quite simple: Brandon Stanton, the creator of HONY, approaches people on the streets of New York for a photograph and a chat. And the results are…

The “Feels Too Much” Tribe in a “Just Chill” World.

Have you felt like a sponge soaking up all emotions around you – from people around you, characters in a movie you just watched, the books you read or a tragic news you heard? You carry these feeling as your own and it takes you hours or sometimes days to get over it. When you…

Pursuing Dreams and Sustaining Love – With Juli and Vivek Cariappa

Let’s talk to a couple, who actually rolled up their sleeves and moved on to pursue their dream that felt crazy enough to people around them. What kept them moving forward was their shared dream, the will to work hard, the determination to live a life with conviction and a whole lot of mutual love.

“Lasts Forever” – That’s such a cliche.

Love ain’t designed to stay that long (moreover with the life expectancy increased there is a major design flaw to this whole “forever” concept :)). Most of the time people have stretched it for a lifetime for the sake of social pressures, kids, religious beliefs or financial stability. This isn’t intentional but it’s a possibility that cannot be simply denied. If we strip societal pressure, kid’s security, financial stability, religious beliefs and any such reasons out of the equation – is there “something” left in a long term relationship that makes you come back to the same person day after day?

On the Same Wavelength – Oh! that’s Brain Coupling

Brain coupling is like a magic moment when you feel understood heard received by another person. You let your guard down and have an embodied felt connection with another. This is a “moment” of loving connectedness.

UNDEFINED

Some Love stories don’t have a happy ending but they do end in happy friendship..because of destiny

SoulCafe –Soul Connections on your Mobile

Brewing real Conversations and Connections that lasts a lifetime. SoulCafe the platform that aims at building long term Soul Relationships for urban Indian singles is now available for Android devices.  After the web presence (www.soulcafe.co.in) it’s the next logical step forward. So here we are! SoulCafe is not for everybody and it recommends people to…

Can Men and Women be Just Friends? (Video)

Can truly platonic relationships ever exist, or will there always be some bit of attraction involved? Would attraction eventually break these friendships? Attraction only breaks a friendship if you let it. Feeling attracted to someone isn’t your choice but addressing it is. The key isn’t to repress it but to acknowledge that it exist.  Watch some…

Soul Cafe Fairy Tale Moment : Deepa – Sid

Our greatest joy comes from these Fairy Tale moments at Soul Cafe! Especially when we hear it directly from our Cafe Mates. These moments are our “Caffeine” that keeps us upbeat & kicking as we move forward on our journey towards building Soul Relationships. Much love to you Deeps and Sid! Sharing your fairy tale moment with the world!

Heart Break is real after all

What does it take to realize that a “heart-break” actually has a very tangible physical connotation to it?
What does it take to realize that a “heart-break” takes its own time to heal?

Love as a way of Life

We all have our notions, our definitions or even a vague picture of how love is supposed to be. Come February and this sickness suddenly spreads and heightens it’s fold. It’s like somebody from above opens a can of “Love,” air freshener and sprays it all on us … Long enough to last a month,…

Meet the couple who quit their jobs to embark on a transformational journey

People who follow such inner callings are indeed inspiring – and one such couple is Saurav and Devapriya who published a book called “The Heat and Dust Project: The broke couple’s guide to Bharat. ” SoulCafe spoke to this lovely duo on their journey, the Heat & Dust Project and above all the transformation in their relationship.

THE SECOND TIME YOU FALL IN LOVE

“Because love is not instagram to always show you in the best possible light. It is messy and ugly like the unfiltered snap chats you send your best friend” The first thing you should know about the second time you fall in love is that it will be very different. The first time you fell…

An Unspoken Relation

I prayed aloud, “May they be safe. May this ‘unspoken relationship’ be alive for ever. May we four re-meet & relive the moments we had spent.”

A Love that Transforms, Transports and Transcends.

Having grown in a broken home (as in always getting caught in the cross fire of two ever-fighting parents), I always wondered (to the point of having no expectations whatsoever from a married partner) may be this is how it should be – we aren’t meant to be happy and peaceful. Just the way they keep repeating in several holy…

Psychology of Love – The Triangular Theory

Have you for once wondered why a friend whom you have known for years remain a friend with no romantic attachment, while you instantly feel romantic about someone whom you met only for a short while? Why does romantic love not always end up in commitment and can a relationship that just starts with pure commitment end up having romantic love?

Opposites don’t attract unless we are talking about magnets

So, sorry, opposites don’t attract unless we are talking about magnets. Or let me put it in a more milder tone – in human relationships opposites tend to attract and these tend to be our short term crushes. When it’s about love for life, like-minded partners work better.

Being my own Beloved

Should Valentines day be the reminder of a loveless life in the absence of a significant “other”? I guess not because love is what we are all made of – the source of love is within us.

Down the memory lane of magical handwritten letters

In an era where “convenience” reigns – expecting a handwritten note is pure indulgence. The extravagance of someone’s undivided attention is indeed a luxury. Each time you read its the joy of traversing through the person’s thoughts as he or she wrote –while the ink smudged, some words struck and the little doodles here and there.

What has “Attachment Styles” to do with Break Ups?

There are no cookie cutter solutions like some articles proclaim – “5 ways to deal with heart breaks”. And that’s because each relationship is unique and so are the individuals. While we see a Devdas effect at one end, we also see people who get into a rebound relationship rather quickly. There are couples who could still be friends after a break up, and others who can’t. Though there are many aspects of a relationship that could make us react in a certain way, having an understanding about our “attachment styles” would give us better clarity on why we respond the way we respond.

Coping with Decision Fatigue

As humans we have always prayed and wished for abundance. But the fact remains that we are hardly in a position to deal with abundance. We are hardwired to handle scarcity and not abundance.

Love thy “Inner Child”

In a dark dingy room, down the mucky stairs, I open the creaky door, to find a little kid lost and scared. I ask her to come out but she seems doubtful if that’s okay, She gathers faith and slowly steps out to the brightness of the day. The first ray of  light makes her eyes squint from the glare. Gradually I see…

In Love with the idea of Love

Our brains work in weird mysterious ways. Always coming up with cocktails of mysterious thoughts, perceived realities and unreal illusions. If this were, for one tiny moment, considered a witch’s potion cooked out of a large cauldron then the smokes rising up for this concoction is nothing but the pangs, oohs-aahs and the emotional roller…

Not the knight in a shining armor or the dainty damsel

Although soulmates waltz into our lives with such a swing that matches our rhythm in every step, taking our breath away, they are not always the knight in a shining armor or the darling dainty damsel we always think they are. They can be that but they are also the villains who wreak havoc in our otherwise normal lives.

The Comedy in my Divorce – Part II

As I continue to take you into my journey while the comedy is on (here is The Comedy in my Divorce PART 1, in case you missed it), there are these very special and dear ‘ Types’ who have actually made me see My COMEDY IN MY TRAGEDY. What would I do without you? This post is for you…

The Comedy In My Divorce – Part 1

This post is not with any intent of ranting but just with pure intentions of making it light for me and all those who face the same music. I took my time to pen this, but I saw it coming awhile back. There are different segments of people you witness when you are going through…

Being A Differently Abled Woman Is Not About Compromise

When it comes to romance and relationships, or anything else in life, why is a differently abled woman urged to ‘compromise’? (This post is part of a special series on #FreedomToBe  where people shared their heart felt stories about one’s relationship status and the judgement that often comes with it.). Freedom has always been an aspiration pivotal to an…

The Freedom Verse For The Single Woman In India

Single woman in India is not ‘qualified’ to do a number of things as per our traditions. Yet, being single can also mean freedom.  (This post is part of a special series on #FreedomToBe  where people shared their heart felt stories about one’s relationship status and the judgement that often comes with it.). In my post, How as a…

The importance of being vulnerable

Vulnerability in this world is avoided like plague. We so detest revealing ourselves to the world and more so to our partners. The idea of holding back hinges on a primal fear of getting hurt in the process of baring oneself. Fear of judgment and perception makes us create cocoons of our inner secrets, original…

The Journey of “Finding Yourself”

This article tries to explore the concept of “Individuation” , taking characters from the movies as examples. This process of transformation is difficult, yet beautiful. A caterpillar needs to transform into a butterfly to spread joy and beauty – would you rather prefer the caterpillar to stay “as is”, because you fear it will fly away…

Growing in or Growing out of Love

They were in love – the so called truly, madly and deeply love. They held each other’s hands firmly and  started on their  life journey of togetherness. “Your dreams are mine and mine yours or now it’s just ours” – they vowed to one another. Everything seemed just so very perfect. They were in sync, in…